The Ultimate Secrets of Total Self-Confidence by Dr. Robert Anthony
“All forms of competition are hostile. They may seem friendly on the surface but the prime motivation is to be or do “better than” the next person. However, you were placed on this earth to create, not to compete, so if competition is used as your basic motivation to do anything, it will literally conspire against you and defeat you every time. What we’re saying is that the purpose of life is to BE, not to compete. As one teacher puts it, “I am for me, not against anyone!”
“If you ask them, (most people) if they think competition is healthy, they will reply, with great enthusiasm, that it is not only healthy, but it is necessary! They feel it gives life meaning, purpose and direction; that a person needs a reward for doing a “good job.” It never occurs that the reward is in the doing and not in the end results.”
“He struggles to surpass those he feels are superior. In effect, he is always comparing himself to people around him. The competitive person always needs someone else to validate how well he is doing.
The self-reliant individual, on the other hand, does not feel the need to compete. He does not need to look and see what others are doing or be “better than” the next person. Recognizing his own capabilities for what they are, he strives for excellence in his own life. The only competition is with himself to achieve greater personal growth and excellence in what he desires to accomplish.”
ACTION STEP FOR TODAY:
Where do you fall in the spectrum of competition? How can you continue to get better and become the best you yet?
Quotes from: Dr. Robert Anthony, The Ultimate Secrets of Total Self-Confidence (New York: The Penguin Group, 1979), pages 22-23.