Making Friends with Failure

The Ultimate Secrets of Total Self-Confidence by Dr. Robert Anthony

“Unfortunately, somewhere along your path of development, you picked up the idea that there is something wrong with failing. You became very much concerned about what other would think when failure occurred. Even if you didn't take chances with your life, you felt you must always look good in the eyes of your family, friends, and society.

You may have decided that the best way to avoid failure was to tackle only those things for which success was assured in advance. Since there is very little in life that we can be 100 percent sure of, your activities would necessarily be limited. This attitude probably had its genesis in your teens when you where striving for acceptance of your peer group. Most teens would rather die than appear stupid or ridiculous, or fail in front of their peer group.”

“As this habit pattern became impressed into our subconscious, our limited thinking made us a prisoner. In order to function, we created a comfort zone whereby we avoided unpleasant situations and established routine that we felt comfortable with. Unfortunately, our comfort zone shuts off all the unlimited possibilities that exist outside it.

If we are to break out of the comfort zone we created, we must make friends with failure. When we decide to give up our need for approval, it won't matter how many mistakes we make as long as we reach our ultimate goal. Thomas Edison conducted 10,000 experiments before inventing the light bulb. Undeterred, he didn't classify any of these experiments as failures. Instead, he said, he had successfully identified 9,999 ways his invention wouldn't work!

What we are talking about here is persistence. This is the dynamic quality that separates the achievers from the non-achievers and often surprisingly, takes the place of intelligence, knowledge, education, and even experience. Those who are persistent refuse to allow any person, circumstance, or condition to get in their way.


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Quotes from: Dr. Robert Anthony, The Ultimate Secrets of Total Self-Confidence (New York: The Penguin Group, 1979), pages 121-122.

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