Success Notes of the Day: Chapter 10 Practice Unselfish Thinking
How Successful People Think By John C. Maxwell
“When you see a four-year-old, you expect to observe selfishness. But when you see it in a forty-year-old, it’s not very attractive, is it?
Of all the qualities a person can pursue, unselfish thinking seems to make the biggest difference toward cultivating other virtues. I think that’s because the ability to give unselfishly is so difficulty. It goes against the grain of human nature. But if you can learn to think unselfishly and become a giver, then it becomes easier to develop many other virtues: gratitude, love, respect, patience, discipline, etc.”
If you rated yourself on the meter of being completely and truly unselfish on a regular or daily basis where would you land?
“As you go into any relationship, think about how you can invest in the other person so that it becomes a win-win situation. Here is how most relationships often play out:
I win, you lose- I win only once.
You win, I lose- You win only once.
We both win- We win many times.
We both lose- Good-bye, partnership!
The best relationships are win-win. Why don’t more people go into relationships with that attitude? I’ll tell you why: most people want to make sure that they win first. Unselfish thinkers, on the other hand, go into a relationship and make sure that the other person wins first. Any that makes all the difference.”
“The process begins with realizing that everything is not about you! That requires humility and a shift in focus.”
Quotes from: John C. Maxwell, How Successful People Think (New York: Center Street, 2009)105, 107-109.